You know. I really hate it when a guy is asked a simple question like, “Do you like a cute face or hot body?” and they answer with, “Neither. It’s the personality that counts.”
Oh gag me with a cock.
First of all, it’s an “A or B” question you pussy and secondly, we live in a world where it’s so shallow that it’s supposedly right to be ‘anti-shallow.’ Please find a healthy medium.
If you’re THAT guy, please note the following:
There is something intensely self loathing and selfish about a person if you’re too good to work on your outer appearance.
It’s like when girls want to wear sweatpants or not match. It’s not being “low maintenance”. It’s called lazy. It takes the same amount of time to put on a matching shirt than a non-matching one. Or are you too pretentious and soooo above it that you can’t make the effort? Because you have a heart of gold?
A partner with a “great” personality would want to look and be the best on all accounts - mentally, emotionally, and physically. Because that’s why people with great personalities do - strive to be the best they can be.
That’s the problem. You want to deny looks have anything to do with personality. You want to write off anything regarding looks as ‘superficial’ and you’re SO above it. But when in reality. it goes hand in hand. You read books, go to school to improve your mind and inner self. You go to the gym, eat healthy, dress well to improve your outer self. Why would anyone be so pretentious to value one over the other when it’s truthfully equally important to being a well balanced being?
If looks didn’t matter, I’d dare you to take a smart, funny, and kind five legged midget over a equally smart, funny, and kind lady that you find gorgeous.
Never ask: “How to tell if my gf/bf is cheating”
You’ll get advice like this.
You’ve heard it before. The famous - “if THEY are accusing you, then they MUST be cheating cuz they feel guilty”
Yes. I’m sure it has nothing to do with you being an inconsiderate asshole, being sporadic with your time, acting a complete 180, checking your phone more often, don’t care to make plans, and just generally being a different person.
No. of course not. When someone takes these signs as a possibility that you may be straying, and they ask about it cuz you know they want to have a constructive open communication relationship it must mean that THEY are straying.
God. People are pathetic.
There is often truths that men are willing to overlook. No matter how obvious the truth may be.
Let me share a prime example. I know this guy who broke up with his girlfriend a few month ago due to her talking to other guys and lying about it. Recently he tried to get her back [fail], wined and dined her [epic fail] and had her spend the night but he did not have sex with her [life fail]. “Why not?” you may ask. “It’s too soon” was her excuse.
Ha! I’ll give you guys a second to contain your laughter.
Let’s throw the obvious out there dude: Your ex girlfriend did not sleep with you because she’s trying to keep her pussy tight for someone else.
Yes it’s crass. Yes it’s the truth.
Let’s look at facts. It’s been over a month since you broke up. Women are sexual creatures [some more than others]. If she was not having sex since you guys broke up, then she must be extremely horny and at the first chance of you wooing her back, her hormones will overtake the best of her and she’ll give in to her needs because ‘ex sex’ is ‘safe sex’.
You may want to believe that she’s playing mind games or she’s toying with your emotions or stringing you along for free meals. Trust, that is all true as well but the primal reason is that she does not want you to feel her vagina stretched and loose or she does not want her man that she’s probably seeing tomorrow to feel anything different.
Laws of bodily nature prevents women from cheating. We can’t fight it. But luckily, men are dumber than they look.
Thank you God.
It’s like a mix between agitated, frustration, and a tad of sadness. Strangely enough it’s growing apart from childhood friends all over again. It’s like you’re not the people you once were. Slowly as things progress, you become disenchanted, the daily tolls of life twists this dynamic up. Then it falls into a cycle of ups and downs. We can’t keep having this same fight. So I admit it, the friendship is taking it’s toll on me. Maybe I’m just over it. But it’s the lingering fact that I want this friendship to work so badly. It’s like running the mile in 4 minutes. Cooking a perfect meal. You know it can be done so you keep trying because try and recapture that feeling.
And in truth, its more than that. I feel like when everything is right and calm, I’m really at ease. It’s that unspoken peace I have with my sister. It’s calm. We can be bitchy, we can hate each other for the moment but bottom line, she’s family. What’s mine is yours. There’s nothing you say that can push me away. I can sit a whole day with her doing nothing and I’ll never complain. I guess I miss that.
But there are certain lines that shouldn’t be crossed. Certain things that shouldn’t be said. Certain things that break the spell. Hard to admit but there’s certain truth that is never said out of love, caring or concern but out of spite. Sure you said it to “get it out in the air.” but it doesn’t undermine the fact that you were being a bitch.
If you want to ruin a relationship, please be all of the below.
5. Pansy/Indecisive – Make a decision and I’ll respect it even if it’s total crap. Do you know what people hear when they hear “I don’t know?” It immediately translates to “I don’t want to be at fault if I pick something wrong”. It’s gay. Letting me make all the decisions doesn’t mean you respect my opinions, it just makes you look lazy, petty, and irresponsible. Not to mention dumb. When someone asks you a question, answer it – like a normal adult. I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t be asking if they wanted to answer it themselves. Please. Be honored. It means they trust you to be the smarter partner in whatever they are asking and trusting that you’ll make a sane and logical decision.
4. Low Standards – Do you know what happens when you tell a girl you’re fucking that a bleached tranny walking by is hot? You just called her a bleached tranny. Don’t blame us girls [we’re women aka not rational creatures] – when we see your taste [or lack of] in women, this immediately clicks in our heads: if he thinks Aubrey O’Day qualifies as hot and he thinks I’m hot - a=b, b=c, a must equal c. EWWWWWWWWW. Way to kill our self esteem. To clarify, don’t tell me I’m Angelina Jolie. I’m not. I don’t need anyone to tell me I’m insanely pretty cuz I’m realistic and I don’t need people to lie to me but don’t make me feel comparable to a walking herpes sore either.
3. Anti Social/Too Social - You know what’s worse than a club rat? A male club rat. It’s really not cute. Same goes for the lone artist painting in a dark room. Get over yourself.
2. Insecure – Unless you have no legs, burn scars, and/or a 1 inch penis, please step your self esteem game up. Whatever daddy/mommy issues you have, handle it in the privacy of your own home. What’s worse? The guys that are really insecure but mask it with a false sense of self confidence. Come on, I’m sure a bunch of hoodrats, whales, and an occasional 7 tell you you’re hot on a weekly basis. So why are you so desperate and thirsty? You know what it stems from? The fact that you know you have nothing really going on for you. You’re unhappy about yourself and no amount of compliments will fill that void even though you still like to hear it. Pity party.
1. Lack of Ambition – Women don’t want men with a bunch of time for them. Same goes for men but more so for women. We like men that like to make a difference. Whether for personal gain, the world, the animals –who the fuck cares. As long as you are out there making things happen for yourself, women will respect you. Be responsible enough to improve on your well being. No woman wants a man that doesn’t want better for himself. If your life consists of del taco, a trashy apartment, and a 10/hour job, then no wonder you’re insecure. Read #2 again.
Trust me. I’ve been around the block enough to know what I’m talking about. [cough. ex hoodrat]. Even the newage skanks don’t accept this behavior. Step it up.
xoxo,
ronnie.
